Whenever you hear someone complain – don’t join them in their negative rampage. Complaining doesn’t make anything better – you are better off being quiet than joining them in their complaining. Even if it is socially accepted and expected of you to join in when someone complains, it is never of value. You always have […]Don’t participate in bullshit – be pure in your heart — joypassiondesire
A story I heard today set my jaw, got my dander up, and got me to thinking what sort of incapable hands, and I am speaking of the enlisted Navy khaki community – have my Brothers and Sisters in the CPO Mess (Retired) left behind? In recent years, story after story of accidents, improper behavior (fraternization) and issues with ships, aircraft and installations continue to be reported. The Navy’s top enlisted Sailor, the MCPON, Master Chief Petty Officer of the Navy, resigned due to allegations of improper leadership this year. And I heard today that a Sailor, who happens to be a career top performer and a person who shares my faith (and a member of my congregation), is being allegedly PERSECUTED by the unit CPO Mess for (allegedly) sharing values with another sailor. Honor? Courage? Commitment?
I have to wonder what has happened to the Navy I served for twenty-six years. For as long as people have put to sea, spiritual beliefs have gone to sea with them. For the last two centuries, members of a faith community have been guaranteed the freedom of expression, worship, and other rights, as well as equal protection under the law. I certainly understand that everyone is entitled – and in the military particularly – to believe whatever they want to believe – as long as the mission and the team performance are not negatively affected. A conscientious objector in charge of a weapons system is not expected. A polygamist or adulterer is not expected to respond to policies that define conduct which brings discredit the unit. A person with addiction, particularly to alcohol or prescription drugs, is not the model of reliability in a moment of necessary quick response or judgement.
A search online on the topic of faith and military duty will reveal articles that support that servicemen and women of faith make better and more capable members. And there has been at least one who was convicted at courts martial for refusing to obey orders to remove a display of religious quotes in her workplace. That conviction was based in part on disobedience to a lawful order, and failure to demonstrate that she had taken all the proper steps via the chain of command to remedy her particular issues.
In the case of the Sailor I heard about today, I know that conduct was not the issue. Disobedience and disrespect of a shipmate was not the issue. If good people of faith, technically capable and ethically sound, are forced out of serving in uniform, then the nation as a whole suffers. I do not expect all members of the military to share my Christian faith, nor even to have a belief in a supernatural Deity. But I have known men and women in positions of responsibility whose conduct and attitude demeaned their peers and subordinates. Some of those subordinates chose to leave the service at the end of their contracts.
Honor. Courage. Commitment. Leadership in the armed forces of the United States is a privilege. And respecting the spiritual beliefs of capable, ethical, and valuable members of the team is but one trait that an exceptional member of the Chief Petty Officer Mess can impart.
In the United States Navy, and by extension, the other military services, an individual has fairly equal opportunity to rise up the advancement ladder, and to qualify for challenging assignments. Leadership, as practiced by some I have had the great fortune to be mentored by, has been recognized by their being awarded positions among the highest authority and responsibility in that service. By mentorship I mean, demonstrating integrity, fortitude (in spite of personal hardships), a commitment to excellence and encouraging others to reach beyond “comfort” in doing.
“Every Sailor has the potential to lead. I don’t care if it’s a seaman recruit or someone higher ranking than myself. Where there’s a will, there’s a way. ” (All Hands Call, Norfolk, VA 01 May 2007)
“The discipline which makes the soldiers of a free country reliable in battle is not to be gained by harsh or tyrannical treatment. On the contrary, such treatment is far more likely to destroy than to make an army. It is possible to impart instruction and give commands in such a manner and such a tone of voice as to inspire in the soldier no feeling but an intense desire to obey, while the opposite manner and tone of voice cannot fail to excite strong resentment and a desire to disobey. The one mode or the other in dealing with subordinates springs from a corresponding spirit in the breast of the commander. He who feels the respect which is due to others cannot fail to inspire in them respect for himself; while he who feels, and hence manifests, disrespect toward others, especially his subordinates, cannot fail to inspire hatred against himself.”
– LTG John M. Schofield, 1879
Ask people whether they have a dream visceral enough they want accomplished. Material possessions, security, education, or a deeply-committed and loving marital relationship. Then ask those same people if they were willing to do whatever it took, in terms of work, being sleep-deprived, learning difficult lessons, memorizing, practicing, enduring criticism and overcoming obstacles to achieve their dreams. Fewer might push on. Of that reduced number, how many would endure whatever life handed them in the pursuit of that dream, as days became weeks, and weeks became months, and months became years? Fewer perhaps. In an article in Forbes, a contributor has published eight traits to predict future success. These include delaying gratification, being seriously motivated and organized, believing that they make the choices which affect their outcomes, and having fortitude during adversity. Predictably, past success leads to future success.
To achieve “success”, whatever that may be in terms of the dreams one has, requires steadfast devotion. Integrity. Mental and physical toughness. And determination that there is no “giving up or giving in”. It may be an enlisted member’s goal to become an Officer or senior Non-Commissioned Officer (NCO). For others, it might be to earn membership into the ranks of the SEALs. The few Navy warriors who complete the BUDS training to become SEALs achieve their first qualifier. Training continues from there. Other services have their special forces as well.
But it can also be the single mother who is raising three young children, in school for a professional certification, who then cares for her children, studies all night, and maintains the family chores all at the same time. And excels. Or it can be the aging sailor with a dream to become a Chief Petty Officer who commits to every training session, early morning fitness challenge, seeks, finds and puts into practice the guidance from others with decades of leadership expertise.
“Success” can be the married young engineer, father of two, one a newborn, who spends time with his children and wife at those critical “family-building” times. Yet he is working early or into late hours, and finding innovative and productive solutions to technical challenges simultaneously.
28 Jesus said to them, “Truly I tell you, at the renewal of all things, when the Son of Man sits on his glorious throne, you who have followed me will also sit on twelve thrones, judging the twelve tribes of Israel. 29 And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or wife[a] or children or fields for my sake will receive a hundred times as much and will inherit eternal life. – Matthew 19: 28 -29 (NIV)
And then there are the spiritually-rewarding opportunities that define “success”. The young graduate of a university with a business degree, sought by several businesses, who voluntarily goes to aid the victims of a natural disaster (Hurricane Katrina, and the Haitian earthquake), as an unpaid volunteer for a charitable organization, finds a mission and a calling that becomes a career.
“A business is simply an idea to make other people’s lives better.” –Richard Branson
Many of the most-recognized entrepreneurs today did not find instant reward and acceptance when they began. Whether it was Ray Kroc and McDonalds, or Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak of Apple, or my company’s CEO, Mark Dankberg and his team, it took determination, confidence, a pursuit of excellence, and vision for the people they attracted, and the customers they served. But each built multi-billion dollar, world-changing enterprise.